Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!!! I hope you have a great day!!!

Dr.Mel and I thought today would be the perfect day to put up our last part of our 3 part series the perfect end to Friendsgiving!! This series has truly taught me so much & I hope it has for you too– these are life long tips that Dr. Mel has given us that will truly change your friendships!

SERIES RECAP-

HAPPY #FRIENDSGIVING this month of November is all about what your thankful for and I know we are all so thankful for friends and friendships that we share. When I started thinking of the perfect person to share some friendship sunshine with us I knew Dr.Melanie Mills would be amazing!!! Dr.Mel and I have really thought through these questions and answers that your about to read so that you can truly understand what a friendship is, what kind of friend you are, what to look for in a quality friendship, and so much more. Welcome to part three of this three part series. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and hopefully these posts will really make you think about how you can cultivate a healthy and real friendship.

How do you keep a close bond within a friendship?

I used to think that I had to spend physical time with someone in order to feel close to them. I don’t feel this way anymore. Praying for a friend, making phone call, showing up unannounced because you want to give them a hug, helping them connect with another friend… there are multiple ways to build bonds with a friend. It’s important to learn about your natural way of bonding so that you can offer it to your friends. Some bond over coffee. Others bond over giving and receiving little gifts. While others bond over making fun memories. While others bond over deep conversations about life. The important part is to bond… whatever that looks like. Because you are created to connect with others. It keeps you alive and thriving.

How should we think about drama in friendships?

It’s normal to have conflict in friendships. That’s what grows us up. That’s why we are taught to forgive and let go of offenses. However, drama does not have to be part of the conflict equation. When you experience drama – PAY ATTENTION. Is there a pot stirrer? Is there a wounded instigator? Is there a need for attention? Is there a misunderstanding? Is there jealousy? Is there hurt? When we peel back the curtain when drama is involved – most of the time there’s a mishandled conflict or an agenda. The key is found in learning how to manage  and understand what’s behind the drama so that there’s a positive and productive outcome. However, when parties involved are not safe or open to working through conflict and it’s one sided – review – the Choose Wisely section.

MUCH LOVE & HAPPY FRIENDSGIVING,

SOPHIE & DR.MEL

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